Tuesday, March 02, 2021

President Bartlett kicks the bible thumpers butt!

I am pretty sure I've posted this clip before, but every time I watch this, it brings me tremendous joy. The woman this clip focuses on represents an actual person in real life. The character in this clip is based on a woman who had a daily 3 hour radio show many years ago, right around the time my hubby and I learned we had a gay son. 

She went by the name of Dr. Laura, but in reality she was a marriage and family counselor & not a medical doctor. This woman used her 3 hours of on-air evangelicalism and sanctimonious piety to hurt people with her cruel barbs & judgment.  This fraud had a special place in her heart of stone for LGBTQ community. She caused so much damage & hurt to those who were gay & those who loved them. My hatred of this woman grew every time she opened her mouth. Not only was she NOT a doctor, but she held herself up as morally superior & above us all. 

So the take-down of this fraud, still to this day, makes me happy.    


Saturday, February 27, 2021

Dad Steals Show At Jain Gay Wedding 🌈

This is a tear jerker. At first I did not know which direction this groom's father was going. I worried that he was going to ruin his son's most important day of his life. I fretted for nothing, he fooled me. He raised this memorable toast: "This is not a defect. It is not to be cured." Now that is a father anyone can be proud of!


Monday, May 25, 2020

It is NOT your God-given right to be selfish. Wear the damn mask.

You don't want to wear a mask, but the policy of the store you are going to, requires you to wear one. What do you do? Go to a store that does not require you to wear a mask. We have been making Gays & Lesbians go somewhere else for decades. So shut the F up Buttercups and wear the damn mask.  

Evangelicals Unmasked

For the people who visit my blog, this video holds no revelations. The lgbtq community has been the punching bag for these evangelicals for decades. But I am posting this video because it is so cathartic. It strips down the facade of sanctimony and exposes their greed, cruelty, & hypocrisy. These evangelicals are fear-mongers who have abused and shamed and fought for draconian anti-gay laws as a way to appeal to the worst of the worst. And now they are supporting a thrice-married monster accused of sexual assault by over 20 women and put him in the White House. These evangelicals are shameless frauds. May they rot in hell for the pain and agony and deaths they have caused. It has been lucrative for them, but deadly for our lgbtq children, brothers, sisters, neighbors and friends.


Wednesday, April 22, 2020

Carrying around that big secret is all-consuming. It robs you of so much.

Hiding such a crucial part of your being is so consuming & exhausting. We saw our son blossom into an amazing young man once he shed that burdensome secret. It was on that day that we finally got to meet the son we didn't know and it was glorious.


Tuesday, September 05, 2017

I just needed a laugh ...

And who better to laugh at than those who use the cover of God to hate?


Monday, August 21, 2017

This Texas Dad of a trans-son is my hero

Ken and Melissa Ballard of Little Elm fought for their son during the Texas 85th Legislative Session. In the clip below Ken tells us their family's very personal and at times painful story. He admits in the video that it is not easy for him to speak so publicly to others about this subject, but he does a wonderful job, in spite of his discomfort. That is what unconditional love for a child does to you.

It's just a damn shame that parents like Ken & Melissa are forced to go so public with their personal story. But with this Texas legislature full of so-called "small gubment" Republicans trying to legislate everything from who can use what bathroom to what women can & cannot do with their bodies (and a whole lot more), it forces people to come out and fight for what is right. . 

Ken and Melissa Ballard have more courage in the tips of their pinkies than the whole lot of these disgusting god-botherer legislators put together. It's a damn shame these shitty law-makers will never learn that messing with anyone's child, is a losing prospect.   

Way to stand up for your son Ken & Melissa!


Tuesday, August 15, 2017

Some Brave Republican ... TBD

Who will be that brave Republican that puts country over party? Answer: TBD


Sunday, August 13, 2017

Dear Arizona Senator Jeff Flake

I can’t help but notice the overwhelming presence of your ads on Twitter lately:
  • “Flake’s Conservative Credentials Are Sterling.”Washington Post
  • “Flake Deserves A True Profiles-In-Courage Award For His Willingness To Put Conservative Principals Over Short-Term Political Gain.”National Journal
  • “A Conservative With Impeccable Credentials”USA Today
  • “Taxpayer Super Hero” award
    • Freedomworks: 95% Rating
    • Club For Growth: 96% Rating
    • National Taxpayers Union: A Rating
    • National Right To Life: 99% Rating
    • Americans For Prosperity: 98% Rating

You scared Senator?

I know you are up for re-election in 2018 and it is going to be a tough race. I wish I could feel sorry for you. I really believed you to be a principled man. And I liked you, even though I am not a Republican and I am definitely NOT a conservative. But that was before Donald J. Trump was elected President.

You definitely talked the right kind of talk when Donald J. Trump was running as a candidate for President of this great country.  In fact you were just as horrified as I was at the thought of a man like him becoming our 45th President and I really admired you for that. You did not hold back. I took great comfort in your words. I truly thought you’d stand your ground and act as a buffer to this president. I was SO wrong.

What happened Senator?

As soon as this horrible, unstable, carnival-barking, buffoon became President you fell in line. You voted in support of just about everything this horrible man wanted. You remained silent and did not push back, no matter what kind of vile, racist, dog-whistle garbage he spewed. You caved Senator. You put your party and self-preservation over your country. You became one with the lowest of the low in your base. You lost your voice and with it any respect so many had for you. You abandoned everything you believed in. And now you are seeing the writing on the wall.

So out come all these lying ads and your new book with a title that is stolen from another Arizona Conservative of a bygone era, Senator Barry Goldwater (The Conscience of a Conservative by Barry Goldwater). Your book, Senator Flake, Conscience of a Conservative: A Rejection of Destructive Politics and a Return to Principle, is a lie. You rejected NOTHING. If the President wanted it or said it, no matter how unconservative, no matter how despicable, you fell in line and either voted for it or remained silent.

You and your book and your ads are a fraud.

You did not reject the destructive, racist politics of this president nor did you stick to your own principles. Instead you straddled a fine line trying to piss off no one. And now you will most likely be facing a primary opponent from your angry right-wing base and a solid NO vote from those who admired you when you spoke your mind when Trump was campaigning. So you screwed yourself with basically everyone, Senator. You pleased no one. You would have been a whole lot better off if you had picked your poison and stuck to one side or the other.

I get it Senator Flake, you are and always have been between a rock and a hard place, which is why you are probably going to lose. It is a no-win situation, so you should have just stuck with your principled stand when Trump was a candidate. At least you would have gone down with a clean conscience and the ability to sleep at night.

Your new book probably won’t save you. Your gushing twitter ads won't save you either.  But there might be a way to save what's left of your legacy if you go back 43 years in history, study it, and repeat it. 

How do you do that?

Pull a Barry Goldwater
On August 7th, 1974  U.S. Sen. Barry Goldwater, R-Ariz., U.S. House Minority Leader John Rhodes, R-Ariz., and U.S. Senate Minority Leader Hugh Scott, R-Pa., made it clear to the embattled Nixon that he faced all-but-certain impeachment, conviction and removal from office in connection with the Watergate scandal. Nixon resigned at noon on August 9th.

Trump probably won't resign, but at least you will give your Arizona constituents many more years of bragging rights for having yet another Senator with real cajones, real courage, and a real love for his country. You won’t be a hero to everyone, at least not right away, but your legacy and the legendary political lore that goes along with it will live on forever.

It's not re-election, but something better: a total restoration of your soul.


Thursday, February 16, 2017

Nuff said...


Turning the kiss cam into a symbol for unbiased love

Hey Tennessee State Representatives Mark Pody (R–Lebanon) and Mae Beavers (R–Mt. Juliet), why the f*ck are you such hateful bigots? Leave your LGBTQ constituents alone. Why can't you accept that Love has no labels. Let people be who they are.

Update: right on cue, sanctimonious fraud, Franklin Graham, has got his panties in a major twist:
“Football season is over and the Super Bowl is behind us. But the NFL is trying to push homosexuality through a new pro same-sex ad. In this ad they show two men kissing each other and two women kissing each other on the ‘kiss cam.’ They’re trying to define sin as love and make it acceptable. This generation is being bombarded with an upside-down version of truth and love. Don’t fall for it."

Tuesday, January 17, 2017

Saturday, January 14, 2017

Couldn't get my "pussy hat" knit in time ...

So I'll have to march with these instead. (For those who have no clue what a pussy hat is, get the backstory here.

Still in complete disbelief that we will soon have an unstable, pussy-grabbing, treasonous narcissist as our next president. This man is not fit to be a dog catcher much less the President of the United States. I'm so terrified of what he will do to our country that I am actually praying that someone will come forward with video proof of his Russian golden showers adventure, but alas, I don't think anything will bring down this horrible man. It is depressing as hell that there are so many people supporting him.

All I can say is, for me, it will be kinda fun to watch all of those sanctimonious frauds who call themselves Christians, but vociferously endorsed this thrice-married, admitted adulterer and sexual predator who cheats, lies, and steals. Lord knows how many scandals we will have to endure before he finally crashes and burns, but to all you hypocrites who supported him and voted for him (and you know who you are), good luck with justifying what you did. We will remember who you are.

God help us.
Seething-like-never-before Mom
PS  Hat-tip to Noga Tarnopolsky for the graphic.

Thursday, December 01, 2016

So you think Donald Trump is going to be good on LGBT issues? Sucker. Ignore what he says, but pay attention to who he appoints.

I hate to do this to you, but we have to be fully prepared to stop trump in his tracks. We have 4 years of this man. And that means we cannot bask in the glory of any of our past victories, we need to fight tooth and nail to protect them. So find your bottle of Tums (you'll need them) and check out Matt's latest clip. It will give you a good idea of what we are up against.


Monday, November 28, 2016

This rich white guy gets it.


You may not cheer at a lynching or think you are a racist, but if you voted for trump, you just bought some rope and looked the other way.

Yes, I have been ignoring this blog for quite some time, and it is taking every last ounce of energy I have to post something right now. And no, I cannot take credit for the title of this post, that goes to Tess Rafferty and the clip included below. 

I am so horrified, distraught, and filled with seething rage, I can barely string more than a few words together and make some sense. This election has left me in such despair that I can barely function. So I will not post much past this paragraph, but I will rely on two amazing women and one amazing man who have done a good job expressing what I cannot right now.

This first is a post by Betty Cracker. She wrote it at 4:45am the morning after the election. I imagine she was fueled by the same rage, despair, and lack of sleep most of us felt that tragic day after. But her rant is epic and pretty much captured everything I think many people were feeling that morning as well. Here is a taste (but please go read the whole thing):
First, a hearty FUCK YOU to every single person who voted for Trump, all 57,518,551 or so of you. Even if you don’t consider yourselves stone-cold racist, misogynist pricks like the president-elect, you’re as bad as he is. If you were stupid enough to believe that your vote “sent a message,” you’re right: By voting for that degenerate demagogue, you’ve displayed such depraved indifference to the fate of women, immigrants, people of color, people with disabilities, etc., that you’re now an honorary member of the Klan. So, put that fucking hood on, asshole.
The second is a NY Times Op-Ed by Charles Blow. It too captures the intense emotions so many of us feel about this monster, donald trump, and the fact that he is going to be the next President of the United States. I am posting two snippets, but please go read the entire article:

And now let me introduce you to Tess Rafferty, someone I just happened to stumble upon in my post-election haze. She too, captured the essence of everything I am feeling. And I want to share her wisdom with you all as well. Watch and enjoy:

Aftermath November 2016 from Steve Cohen on Vimeo.

Sunday, December 06, 2015

The Holy Quran Experiment

Islam has been under huge scrutiny lately and is often criticised for being an aggressive religion... but what about Christianity? In this video they disguised a Bible as a Quran and read some of it's most gruesome verses to different people on the street. Listen to what they had to say.


Thursday, December 03, 2015

Wednesday, November 11, 2015

Friday, November 06, 2015

David Vitter may finally be getting his comeuppance - and this mama would like to be first in line to bid this sanctimonious fraud adieu

For long-time readers of this blog, my glee at seeing David Vitter smacked hard in the campaign ad below will come as no surprise. I have blogged about Mr. Vitter many, many times (previous posts listed below). For me this man goes down in my book as an especially vile, disgusting hypocrite. But for those of you who are not familiar with my obsession with this putrid man and his history, let me briefly fill you in.

Back in 2003, then president, George W. Bush, was running for a second term on a platform that included a gay marriage ban, which was cosponsored by Senator David Vitter. This bill would have amended the U.S. Constitution and denied millions of law-abiding, tax-paying gay and lesbian Americans from getting married to the person they love. And Vitter was one of the 10 original sponsors of this nasty Federal Marriage Amendment. This was nothing more than a blatant and callous political strategy to whip up their far-right religious base into a frothy frenzy pretty much guaranteeing a good turn out at the polls and four more years of George W. Bush and his disastrous policies.

Now I know you are thinking to yourselves that this is nothing new for Republican politicians and you'd be right. But ... this is David Vitter we are talking about. When he was not waxing on about the "Sanctity of Marriage", he was bloviating ad nauseam about "Family Values", all while he was frequenting the DC Madam's prostitution service and the high-priced Canal Street brothel back in his home town. And it also came out that sex with prostitutes was not enough for Mr. Sanctimonious, he also like his home-town girls to make him wear diapers while doing the dirty deed. And if all of this is not enough, now there are rumors that Senator Sanctimonious may have fathered a love-child with one of his hometown prostitutes - not confirmed yet, but hey, where there's smoke there's fire.

So now on to the ad. It is short, it is brutal, and as John Cole noted on his blog, John Bel Edwards just opened a can of whoop-ass on Diaper Dave Vitter:

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Monday, October 26, 2015

Dear Perfect Family… From Your Son (Or From Anyone Who Has Been Rejected)

NOTE: The letter below is not my creation. I found this on FreedHearts, a blog written by Susan Cottrell, a mother of five children including a queer daughter and a lesbian daughter. She is a veteran discipler, Vice President of PFLAG Austin, and she is getting her M.Div at Austin Seminary. FreedHearts is her full time ministry. 

This is a bit long, but well worth the read. I am sure it will resonate with many of you.

I’m writing with a heavy heart about our family, the family I grew up in, which no longer accepts me. It’s so strange, this outside looking in. I’d never really considered that to be a possibility, that our family is negotiable—you can be born in it, but that doesn’t secure your place.
What’s more, I don’t expect you to change. Apparently, the preachers in your church and on TBN have more clout with you than I do—even though I’ve lived it, even though I’m your son. I admit that’s hard to take. I am beyond hoping that you will one day accept me…at least I think I’m beyond it. I’m not sure hoping to be restored to the family you grew up in ever leaves. But I write in hopes that you may be able to clear up some misunderstandings for me.
You have told me I am not welcome because I am gay. You’ve made that very clear. Even though I did not choose this (no matter what you may believe about that), even though I cannot change it (you and I both have prayed feverishly that this would change, but it has not), and even though I am not dating anyone (and all those years, I didn’t have a boyfriend), you still have your “standards.” You told me again and again. It just came as a shock to discover that these standards come above your flesh-and-blood son. I tell you, I really didn’t expect that. But far be it from me to ask you to overthrow your standards for the likes of me.
Help me understand, so that as I lay in my bed, alone and apart from all of you, I know what has happened here, why you decided I am not worthy to be part of the family.
As you know, your firstborn Jim has had multiple affairs, even getting another woman pregnant while he was married to his wife. (In fact, he’d divorced his first wife before he married her.) Yet, he is still welcome at the dinner table. You embrace him, not only after his divorce as you did, but despite his blatant and repeated “sexual sin.” Don’t get me wrong – I think you should embrace him! Because that is what family does. But please, help me understand why you embrace him and not me.
As you also know, my beloved sister—your beloved daughter Gina—is an alcoholic. You’ve “rescued” her many times, you even sent her to rehab for her own good. But no matter how many times she stumbles and falls, you have never once suggest excluding her from family events…events where you serve wine! (Sorry! I was just laughing at the irony there.
Jeremy was born with many physical ailments, which you have taken in stride. You have sacrificed greatly to provide opportunity for him. The surgeries, the physical therapy, the special equipment—none of that did you begrudge your son because he needed it. Of course you would provide it. Not many years ago people like him are shuttered away. I cringe to imagine it. I’m so glad that never happened to Jeremy—I love that sweet guy with all my heart. Thank God you’re there for him! Still, I’m left to reconcile your overextension of love for him that you couldn’t see clear to offer me.
And of course there was the porn you, found on the basement computer, Mom. No one ever owned up to it, and you were never really sure if it was Jim or Dad—none of us suspected Jeremy and it wasn’t Gina. And you knew for sure it wasn’t was me because, as I’ve been saying since I was 12, I am not attracted to girls. But whoever it was still sits at the family table for meals. And they should—we’re family. But why are they there and not me?
I don’t even want to mention the things you two went through, Mom and Dad, things that nearly cost your marriage. It was rough for those couple of years. Yet here you are! Still loving and supporting each other while all the, well, the incidents between you are all water under the bridge. I’m happy for you! I’m not begrudging a single act of grace and forgiveness! That is what family is supposed to be about.
I just don’t understand why you can’t extend that to me as well! Why, for the love of God, do you have grace and understanding and acceptance for EVERYONE but me? It makes no sense. And don’t blame God—YOU are the ones who have cut me out. It is your choice. Why? If you could answer that for me, it would help me sleep better. Because I can’t tell you how many nights I’ve cried my eyes out…I’m tired of crying.
And remember, by the way, this is not even about anything I am DOING wrong. It is about WHO I AM at the very core of my being. You are not upset with me, rejecting me, condemning me because of what I do, it is because who I am.
Personally, I don’t know how you can sleep at night. I don’t know how you can cut one of your children out of your lives and then carry on as if that is normal. IT’S NOT NORMAL TO CUT A CHILD OUT OF YOUR LIFE! Ask Aunt Joan if she would do anything to have her son back, drugs and all, instead of putting flowers on his grave. You know the answer to that. What is the matter with you people?
So you’ve left me to move on and to try not to think about you. You’ve left me to develop a life of my own. So when there is news to tell, like a boyfriend…or a wedding, rest assured I won’t be bothering you with it.
God has given me absolute peace and assurance in my heart that I am exactly who God made me to be—assurance I had to fight for, in the face of your ongoing condemnation, betrayal and rejection. Are you not able to just trust God with that, or do you think you know better?
If you only knew how big God’s love really is, if that love flowed freely through you, you wouldn’t reject me. You would accept me, embrace me, and unconditionally love me… as God has done with you… if you really grasped that love, deep in your bones.
You talk about God’s love but you don’t even begin to understand it.
If you ever have a change of heart, if you ever want me at the family table, you can let me know. I’ll be the one over here living my own life apart from you.
From Your Son (or daughter, sister, brother, aunt, uncle, grandchild…)


Saturday, October 10, 2015

October 11, 2015 is the day we celebrate the 27th anniversary of National Coming Out Day

Via The Human Rights CampaignComing out is a powerful tool we can all use to advance LGBT equality. In honor of National Coming Out Day this Sunday, we celebrate all those who have come out and bravely shared their true, authentic selves with the world.

It is so much harder to hate a real live person than a scary, nasty, evil concept. This is why the James Dobsons (Focus on the Family) of the world fought tooth and nail to keep schools from including glbtq kids in their anti-bullying policies. These so-called "family" organizations wanted the environments at schools to be so hostile and scary for glbtq kids that they would be too afraid to come out of the closet. Organizations like Focus on the Family knew that it is much easier to keep their true believers terrified of a faceless gay boogieman than that real live kid who sits next to your child in biology class.

So yes! Kick that door down. Lift that heavy burden from your shoulders. Come Out and Don't Look Back! Life is hard enough without having to hide such a big part of yourself.


Friday, October 09, 2015

When did Gay Partners Become a Part of the Family on TV?

This show was groundbreaking in so many ways.


Saturday, October 03, 2015

Oh how I wish someone could put that sanctimonious fraud & good ole boy, Mike Huckabee, in his place like this

Why is it that this only happens in Hollywood?

I am posting this just for the fun of it. Shaming sanctimonious religious frauds, who elevate themselves by demonizing and crushing others, is such a fantasy of mine. I know it won't happen, but a mama can dream - can't she?


Sunday, September 27, 2015

A plea to Pope Francis on behalf of homeless LGBT youth: We're Not Sinners

Let me come right out and apologize now because I know from past experience that I will definitely offend someone with what I am about to say. IF you are part of an organized religion that believes gays are an abomination, should be stoned, or demonizes them in any way, it is time to DUMP THAT RELIGION and NOT YOUR CHILD. End of story.

I know many are falling all over themselves praising Pope Francis, and yes, he is a refreshing change from Pope Benedict, but as long as Catholicism continues to perpetuate the myth that our LGBT brothers, sisters, children, friends, and neighbors are evil,  the Catholic Church is no better than any other Church preaching such ignorant drivel. And the streets will continue to fill up with LGBT children discarded like trash.

So for me, I am holding the praise. Pope Francis's comment early on: "Who am I to judge?" was a good start, but it is NOT enough. He heads a church that does judge and until that stops, his words are only lip service.

According to the Ali Forney Center (where our donations go to):

“Over 200,000 LGBT youths are homeless in America. The biggest reason LGBT youths cannot remain in their homes is due to the religious beliefs of their parents."

"Every child deserves to be loved."


Bill Maher methodically crushes the right wing's heroes du jour

For a party that's so into hero worship, Right Wingers sure suck at picking the people they want to put up on that pedestal to adore and idolize. And who better to showcase it all than Bill Maher?


Thursday, September 17, 2015

Matt Baume has some insights on last night's CNN GOP Presidential debate #2 - when it came to discussing Kim Davis

I had a really tough time watching the debate last night. I finally had to turn it off. I just could not take all the hypocrisy and downright idiocy , especially from the god-bothering wing of candidates. Those clowns are constantly scare-mongering about Sharia law seeping into our legal system, but cannot see the irony of their own views on our legal system. It is scary how many of them would be just fine with absolutely no separation of Church and State and the country run as a strict Christian theocracy and one of them as Supreme Leader.


Monday, August 24, 2015

Last Week Tonight with John Oliver: LGBT Discrimination

I am really happy John Oliver decided to tackle a huge misconception that's out there. Now that gay marriage is legal everywhere in the United States, nearly 70% of Americans believe that it is illegal to discriminate against gay people. But the sad and surprising truth is that it is actually still legal in 31 states to do just that. Gay people may be able to marry the person they love and that is wonderful, but until we pass laws that protect gay people from being fired, evicted, or refused service for no other reason than they are gay we should not rest. So yes, let's do celebrate the fact that marriage equality is now the law of the land, but let's not get too complacent yet. As long as restaurants kick gay people to the curb because they "don't like fags", florists and cake bakers refuse to supply their goods for gay weddings because they feel like they are participating in something they do not believe in, and pediatricians turn away the children of same-sex couples because it offends their religious beliefs, we'd better quit tipping the champagne and get back to work. We are definitely not done yet.


Friday, August 14, 2015

How Sitcoms Handled Homos in the 70s and 80s

Watch Matt Baume's fascinating analysis of the evolution of gays' roles in television from the 70's on through the 80's. Matt really puts it all into perspective. I just wish he'd showcased more shows and more decades - taking it right on up to the present. This is a most enjoyable watch. Take the 7 minutes it takes to watch this, you'll be glad you did.


Tuesday, August 11, 2015

Que Magnifico: Mexican Supreme Court strikes down gay adoption ban

The Mexican Supreme Court on Tuesday ruled a law in the state of Campeche that bans same-sex couples from adopting children is unconstitutional.
The 9-1 decision comes against the backdrop of the debate over marriage rights for same-sex couples that continues to gain momentum in the country.


Friday, August 07, 2015

Matt Baume's take on last night's debate responses on Gay Marriage questions

Well worth the time. It's fun watching Matt hold the usual suspects' feet to the fire.

Note: Matt is not as happy with John Kasich's response as I was (in the post below). I guess I'm just so starved for all gay issues to no longer be issues at all for this goofball Party that I'll take whatever I can get.