How many families have to tragically implode like Ted Haggard's family before we realize how horribly wrong the Religious Right is on this issue? How many more innocent victims must there be before we say enough to those who want to legislate into law their rigid, narrow, and unbending vision of what they think a family should look like?
We cannot continue to force gays and lesbians to be something they are not simply to keep people like James Dobson and Tony Perkins in their comfort zone. Sham marriages have consequences, and lots of innocent victims, just ask Ted Haggard's wife or children.
It speaks volumes about the motives of this Sanctity of Marriage crowd that they could watch what happened to Ted Haggard and his family and be more energized than ever to make sure DOMA is never repealed. This isn't about protecting marriage, this isn't about the sanctity of marriage, this isn't about protecting the family, and it certainly isn't about Christian Values. This is about homophobia. And it has had tragic consequences on the very institution they pretend to want to protect.
How long are we going to let the Religious Right push their toxic, destructive definition of marriage and family on the rest of us?
Forcing gay people into molds they do not fit helps no one. It robs them of dignity and self-worth and the capacity for healthy relationships. It wrecks family, twists Christianity, violates humanity. It must end.
Watch this video and tell me how Ted Haggard wasn't destined to fail from the moment he uttered the words, I Do. As angry as I want to be with this man, I simply cannot help but feel deep sorrow for him. And this is why I shall never, ever force my son to be something he cannot be: