Wednesday, May 06, 2015

Gotta love this Barcelona bike rental place.

I know it has been a long time since I've posted, but I needed the break. Hope you all have been well during my absence.

My husband and I are in Barcelona right now and I just had to share this lovely bike rental shop owner's message. Seems he's not fooled by these faux Christians who just want to hate  while using the bible for cover.  Bottom line, you want to be an ignorant bigot: NO BIKE FOR YOU!


Sunday, November 09, 2014

All God's Children

HRC - Human Rights Campaign - speaks to born again Christians:

I have to admit, I did get a little teary-eyed. But I could also get all negative here and say that I am not so sure that many of the hard-core bible-believing born-agains will see the light unless they are personally confronted with a loved one who comes out, as happened to this family. And even then I'm not so sure. Homeless shelters still runeth over with gay and trans kids from "good Christian" families.

And I could get even more negative here and say that my experience with so many of these bible-believing born-agains is that the more bible-y they get, the more rigid, cold-hearted and merciless they get.

But since I am trying to make a conscious effort not to get all negative, disregard the above two paragraphs.


Friday, October 17, 2014


Today is my birthday and what a great day it has turned out to be! And I could not have asked for a better birthday gift. Gay marriage is now legal in Arizona!!!!

I am too emotional to post much. But grab a tissue or two and watch the clip below. I have actually met the first newly wed couple in the clip, Karen and Nelda and they are a class act. They have been together for 57 years and could teach a few of us "one-man-one-woman" couples a thing or two about commitment and love.

And as expected, not everyone is as gleeful as me, but that only makes me happier. First off we have our lovely governor, Jan Brewer, who apparently finds it "deeply troubling" that her gay and lesbian constituents have not waited long enough for the same rights as everyone else:
“It is not only disappointing, but also deeply troubling,” Brewer’s statement read, “that unelected federal judges can dictate the laws of individual states, create rights based on their personal policy preferences and supplant the will of the people in an area traditionally left to the states for more than two hundred years. As Justice Scalia opined, such action is tantamount to ‘an assertion of judicial supremacy over the people’ and is an image of the judiciary ‘that would have been unrecognizable to those who wrote and ratified our national charter.’”
Brewer’s view is that if same-sex couples are to enjoy full equality, they should have to wait until their rights have been subject to popular plebiscite or legislative approval.
“If society wants to recognize same-sex marriage or civil unions,” Brewer said, “that decision should be made through our elected representatives or at the ballot — not the courts.”

And then we have one of one of Arizona's top homophobes, Cathi Herrod and her group from the Center for Arizona Policy hyperventilating with the headline: "For Marriage Supporters: Grief Yes, Despair No":
“I am heartbroken for a country and a state that has had the redefinition of marriage forced upon them by an out of control federal judiciary. 
Today, we grieve. We grieve for the children who now have no chance of growing up with a mom and a dad. We mourn the loss of a culture and its ethical foundation. We mourn a culture that continues to turn its back on timeless principles.
But we do not despair. We do not throw in the towel. We do not give up. (bolding mine)
I am not sure what they think they are going to do now. About all that is left is a big giant temper tantrum and then years of  playing the victimhood card.

And me? I am going to sit back, enjoy a glass of wine, and luxuriate in their misery. Just like they did when the tables were turned. This Arizona mama is having the birthday of a lifetime.



Tuesday, October 07, 2014

Maybe I can quit seething now

Waking up to this was so lovely:

The tides have finally turned. But most surprising to me is something so perfectly expressed yesterday by Andrew Sullivan:
Unless the composition of the court changes, it now seems close to certain that every American citizen will soon have a right to marry the person they love. An idea that once seemed preposterous now appears close to banal. 
Banal. Who would have thought? 11 years ago I was a seething, agonizing mess, but now, I am nodding my head in agreement to the above statement.

The road to this point has been so bumpy, so full of exhilarating highs and devastating lows. But I now believe it was all necessary to arriving at this point. Martin Luther King Jr. once said something that is just as pertinent today as it was the day he said it:
“The arc of the moral universe is long, but it bends towards justice.” 
Does all of this mean I am done seething? No, there will always be something to be angry about. The people who have decided it is their mandate to inflict their morals on the rest of us will eventually move on and if history is any indicator, their goals will almost always be a mix of noxious and nasty.  But having watched this particular drama involving gay rights unfold since 2003, which is when I found out I had a gay son and it became very up-close and personal for me, has made me realize that changing hearts and minds is a worthy albeit timely goal.

We are now watching the last, very ugly dying gasps of a movement that dedicated its entire existence to denying dignity, rights, and protections to a minority that included my son. I won't kid myself, it can still get really ugly, but something has changed in the dynamic. People's opinions have slowly changed. They no longer believe their marriages will be affected by the married gay couple down the street or that the sky is going to fall because that couple decides to have children. And that is because they no longer see gay people as much different than themselves.

These anti-gay groups no longer have the upper hand.

It was a long and very painful wait (and I only had 11 years of personal investment), but now with the advantage of hindsight, I get why it was so important that it happen this way.

My posting will still be almost non-existent. Life still has ups and downs, but seething for what my son is being denied is not necessary anymore. The genie is out of the bottle and no one can stuff it back in.

This is not yet an official good-bye. But I need to smile again.

love you guys,
Kim, former seething mom


Tuesday, March 25, 2014

Very late breaking news: Fred Phelps is DEAD.

I was not going to even write about this man. He is not worth the energy or time, so I will let this Russian newscaster do it for me.


Hat tip to my son, Michael, for sending this to me. He knows me so well. And a gigantic thank you to old dead Fred for being the best gay rights advocate we could ever have wished for.


Friday, February 28, 2014

Nailed it!

From JMG who got it from the Miami Herald

Like a bad toenail fungus, Arizona won't easily rid itself of Cathi Herrod either

Cathi Herrod, head god-botherer and gay hater of the Center for Arizona Policy, went down hard in a pretty humiliating defeat with the veto of SB 1062. But like a bad case of toenail fungus, Cathi isn't disappearing anytime soon from Arizona politics. One can safely bet she is back in her think-tank of evil right now, licking her wounds, bankrolling her latest wad of Koch Brother cash, and dreaming up the next batch of nasty legislation targeting the glbt community and anyone else who doesn't fit her godly vision for normal. She knows she still has a willing legislature dominated by half-wit Republican tea-baggers eager to make her every wish their command. So stay tuned people, Arizona is far from done with the spotlight. And Cathi Herrod is far from done keeping us in it.



Thursday, February 27, 2014

A begrudged thank you to the Governor for doing something that should have been a no-brainer in the first place

So by now everyone knows Governor Jan Brewer has finally vetoed the infamous SB 1062, a bill that would have given any Arizona business the right to deny service to anyone they want (read: especially those who are lgbt) under the guise of a "sincerely held religious belief".  Never mind that businesses can do that now without any fear of repercussion. They can legally fire, deny service, deny housing, etc to anyone who is lgbt or even perceived to be lgbt. So this bill was nothing more than a good twist of the knife by our  bat-sh*t crazy, tea-baggin legislators and their puppeteer masters over at the Center for Arizona Policy.

So to all the people out in the street celebrating and falling all over themselves thanking the Governor, I say, go at it, but save some of that energy. The same bozos that gave us this flaming pile of poo are back in their labs cooking up something else just as crazy to keep Arizona in first place for stupidest state in the union. It is only a matter of time.

And remember, Jan Brewer finally ended up doing the right thing, but for all the wrong reasons. She didn't veto SB 1062 because it would legalize discrimination. She didn't veto SB 1062 because it would give legal cover for further demonization of minorities. She didn't veto SB 1062 because it is the antithesis of what Jesus was all about. No. She vetoed SB 1062 because she could already hear the giant sucking sound of all those tourist dollars, Superbowl dollars, and big business dollars leaving the state for more saner parts of the country. Not because Arizona was getting a reputation for being a big a-hole state. That's actually a badge of honor.

All those days she kept herself in the spotlight supposedly agonizing and praying and "listening to both sides" was simply a calculated move to make the losing side believe they actually had a chance of winning. She knew all along this bill wasn't going to see the light of day. For a Republican the only thing that speaks louder than bigotry and homophobia is money - and lots of it. Human dignity? Equal rights? Protections for all? Respecting diversity? Pffffffffft.

Update: Thank you Jon Stewart (and don't worry, Arizona Republicans are not done yet, they'll still be a good source of comedy for you):


Tuesday, February 25, 2014

Dear Governor Bony Finger, what the hell are you waiting for?

Veto that damn Hate Bill sitting on your desk. You've had more than enough time to read SB 1062 - all 2 pages of it. Now get off your bony knees, stop the prayin, and tell the Center For Arizona Policy to go f*ck themselves. And then blame it on God.

For each hour you procrastinate, our beautiful state remains the center of attention and in a truly horrible way. Hell at this rate we are making Alabama look like a bastion of progressiveness and tolerance.

So veto the damn bill Governor. It's a no-brainer. This damn lolly-gagging isn't just damaging Arizona, but you too. People are genuinely beginning to wonder if you are really as stupid as you look right now or just another run-of-the-mill Republican politician whose bigotry and hate trumps the good of the constituents they represent.

Oh and Guv, when you veto that bill, could you please send Cathi Herrod and her think tank buddies packing too? We've had more than enough of those evil bullies as well.

Thanks muchisimo,

Yours truly,


Sunday, February 23, 2014

Dear Arizona Republican Lawmakers,

For a group of tough-talking, "wild west" gun-slingen wanna-be's, you've got to be the biggest bunch of embarassing, frightened little ninnies I've ever seen. It is quite a sight to behold when Cathi Herrod or one of her faux Christian soldiers from the Center for Arizona Policy come thundering into the Arizona State Capital building. Puffed-out chests deflate, righteous spit-riddled bravado ceases, and all fall to bended knees when the self-appointed queen of morality makes an appearance. What a sight! A mass of cowering, frightened little Republican yes-men and women, clutching cutesy little pink handguns to the breast and quivering from head to feet clad in cheap cowboy boots. Wyatt Earp and Doc Holiday are cringing in their graves and sane Arizonans weep as the cowardly lot of you beholden sheeple once again mar our state with your ugly politics, bigotry, and profound ignorance.

Please don't tell me y'all really believe that SB 1062 is a badly needed solution to a big problem. Most Arizonans see right through that. Be honest, this is yet another classic case of every one of you miserable cowards bowing to the whims of Cathi Herrod. And please stop insulting us by insinuating there are hordes of "religious" people whose rights are being trampled. We know you are lying through your teeth. The truth is so much simpler and so much more sinister. This is just another opportunity to trample the civil rights of those you do not like under the guise of religion - and only a certain kind of religion. The religion of Cathi Herrod and the Center for Arizona Policy.

Congratulations Arizona Republicans. Once again, you've made national buffoons of yourself. Once again you've shown us what cowards you are. Once again you've shown us what sanctimonious frauds you are. And once again you've shown us who really wears the pants in this state --- and it ain't YOU. It is Cathi Herrod.

What wimps.


Friday, February 21, 2014

What's it gonna be Governor Brewer?

From Rocco's Little Chicago Pizzeria in Tucson

All eyes are on our Governor here in Arizona now that yet another nasty, mean-spirited bill targeted at a minority has hit her desk for final approval. And honestly, there is no predicting which way she will go on this latest atrocity to come out of our state legislature.

This is a Republican wet-dream, a religious freedom bill which allows people to legally discriminate against whomever they want (as long as they couch it as living their faith or some stupid bullsh*t like that). And it was specifically written with the glbt community in mind (cuz Jim Crow laws are so 20th century), but could essentially legalize the discrimination (under the guise of religious freedom) against anyone. It is definitely a solution looking for a problem and it is despicable. It will also be the tax payers financial burden when it inevitably hits the courts.

I am fuming right now. I am so g.d. sick and tired of the lunacy that emanates from our state capital. But with a legislature dominated with such feeble-minded, cowardly Republican lawmakers, I guess I should not be surprised. The collective intelligence of this group of politicians is so underwhelming that I truly don't believe they are capable of solving the real problems plaguing this state so they just make up sh*t to solve.

Stated less harshly, our Republican lawmakers aren't really capable of complex thinking. No, they definitely had help with this heaping pile of poo. And Cathi Herrod and her minions from the Center for Arizona Policy are always there when it comes to demonizing and denying rights to people they do not like. And this bill definitely has the stench of this faux family values group's influence. If it's hateful and nasty and targets a minority that right-wing hate groups love to single out and demonize, it almost always has Cathy Herrod's greasy fingerprints all over it.

So now the only thing that stands between another gigantic black eye for our beloved state of Arizona and the evils of Cathi Herrod and her clan is our governor.
Governor Bony-Finger's moment of shame
Gawd it kills me that it all comes down to her. But to be fair, she has been on the right side of a few issues so all we can do is hope she will be on this piece of hateful legislation as well.

And as for Cathi Herrod? I want to thank her. She and her hateful ilk have done more to advance the rights of our glbt brothers and sisters than we ever could have. Pushing this kind of legislation turns off most fair-minded, intelligent people. It also infuriates, repulses, and strengthens the resolve of those who have a glbt loved one. This is what will be Cathi Herrod's ultimate undoing.


Monday, February 10, 2014

We Shall Overcome - In Moscow with the Gay Men's Chorus of Los Angeles

Sorry about the lack of posting. It's just too much right now, but I will be back soon. Until then, here are 3 minutes of touching inspiration created by the Gay Men's Chorus of Los Angeles in response to Russia's intolerance and cruelty towards their GLBT citizens.


Saturday, November 30, 2013

Dear Tim (originally posted on May 9, 2010)

December 1st is World AIDS Day, so in honor of a dear friend I knew in college, I am re-posting a letter I wrote to him shortly after learning he had died of AIDS back in the 90's.

Dear Tim,
It's been such a long time since we've talked, but I've never forgotten those wonderful times or the beautiful friendship we shared. They were good times - weren't they? I cannot believe it's been 30 years since we graduated from college and went our separate ways. Where did all that time go?
Tim, you have no idea how many times I have thought about you over the years and wished with all my heart I could pick up the phone and call you --- especially these past 7 years. I really miss those days back in college when I'd come over to visit my boyfriend, your roommate, and he'd be gone and you and I would sit and talk about anything and everything. I think I secretly enjoyed those times as much or more than if my boyfriend had been home. You were such a good friend and an amazing listener. You always made me feel like what I had to say was the most important thing in the world to you and absolutely nothing else mattered at that moment. I really miss your quiet wisdom and sage advice. There was something about you that made you seem older and wiser than your age. Little did I know then that I would have a much better understanding of thatsomething many years later when I had children of my own.
Those 4 years of college, away from home for the first time, finding our way and learning to stand on our own two feet, were some of the best years of my life. And I have come to realize that the people whose friendships meant so much to me during those years were some of the best friends I have ever had. And you Tim were one of those friends. It's such a shame that I am realizing that so late in the game. And looking back on it, as I have so many times, I am shocked at how little thought any of us gave to how we would keep in touch once we graduated and moved on with our lives. How could we have so cavalierly walked away from such great friendships? It wasn't like we had the technology or social networking sites we have today, so what were we thinking? Were our promises to stay in touch simply easier than saying good-bye?
Seven years ago I found out one of my sons was gay. And with this revelation came the realization that I needed to find you. And that is when my search to find you began in earnest. I have never needed to talk to anyone more desperately than I needed to talk to you that day I found out. For it was with that discovery I knew almost instantaneously that you were going to be one of the very first persons I wanted to tell. And I also knew you were going to be the one who could help me understand why my son could possibly believe his dad and I would not love him if we knew he was gay. And I was quite sure you were the one who could help me understand this.
You see Tim, it was my son's secret coming out 23 years later that helped me realize what had always troubled me about your relationship with me. I had always known that you had something you were not willing or ready to share with me or anyone else. I had my suspicions, but I never knew for sure. And I did not want to push it. I figured you were not yet ready to admit it to yourself let alone to any of your friends. It bothered me a lot that you could not tell me, but I never took it personally. I knew it had nothing to do with me. You simply were not ready to share such a big secret or risk the possible fall out. What I didn't realize until I went through my son's ordeal was how much you felt you had to lose by confiding in anyone. And it had to be so much worse back then for you than seven years ago for my son. I realize now that I wasn't able to be the friend you desperately needed me to be, and for that I am so sorry.
I have thought about our relationship so many times these past 7 years. I regret that I never told you how very important you were to me. I regret not being able to tell you that NOTHING would have changed how I felt about you. I regret not being able to be there for you the way you were always there for me. And I regret the pain you must have been going through all alone. But my biggest regret of all is that I will never have the opportunity to tell you any of these things because I found your little brother through facebook last week and he confirmed my darkest fears. I am too late. He told me you passed away 15 years ago due to complications from AIDS. My heart is broken.
All I can do now is say good bye to one of the kindest and most gentle friends I have ever known and hope you can hear me. Thank you for those four great years of friendship. I know we were just kids back then, but I will treasure those memories forever. I wish I could have been the friend you needed back then. Please forgive me.
I love you.


Saturday, November 23, 2013

Must see: Dan Savage on Bill Maher's Real Time and ... he really lets loose

Sorry for the lack of posting. Been competely buried in doctor appointments for my mom. And for those who are dealing with a loved one with dementia, you know that absolutely NOTHING is easy. My heart is breaking watching one of the strongest, most independent people I have ever known slowly slip away.

On a brighter note:

The clip below is NOT safe for work, children, "good" Christians, the faint of heart, those who still walk into Catholic churches, or homophobes, but for everyone else --- enjoy. I found it deliciously good fun, but then it's two of my favorite people: Bill and Dan.


Monday, November 18, 2013

Easy and Honest way to get rid of Jehovah's Witnesses

This tickled me to no end (Hey, it's Monday and shaping up to be a totally sh*tty day):

We don't get this kind of annoying stuff happening much anymore now that we live in a condo. And that's just fine with me, although ... I'd love the chance to try this. It's genius! Talk about turning the tables and putting the invaders in an uncomfortable position ...

Big thanks for the Monday morning giggle Paddy.


Wednesday, November 13, 2013

Ignorance and Homophobia: The tale of 2 bigots, both make laughingstocks of themselves, but one is a comedic actor, the other pretends to be a "Man of God"

So this morning I had some extra time on my hands and sat down to do some mindless surfing on the internet. Over at Crooks and Liars they had a clip of Pat Robertson telling parents of gay children "that there was a good chance that school officials may have "molested" their kids to recruit them to be homosexuals."

Now there was a day when this kind of blatantly ignorant and homophobic garbage would have upset me so bad, my entire day would have been ruined. No more. I guess I have come to expect this kind of sheer lunacy from Pat Robertson and his ilk, which is not to say this despicable man doesn't still disgust me and cause the bile to rise up into my throat. He is a pathetic and evil man who has enriched himself on the backs of those who can least afford it while passing himself off as a man of God. He is a fraud. He is a snake oil salesman. And he preys on the ignorant and vulnerable. I cannot change any of that, but I can change how I react to him. So I laugh at him. He deserves so much more, but at least he cannot ruin my day anymore.

Then I moved on to AmericaBlog where John had the clip below posted. I laughed. And I was supposed to laugh.

Both clips feature over-the-top ignorant bigots. One has an actor who played an over-the-top ignorant bigot in a 70's sit-com, the other has a clueless buffoon who plays a preacher and man of God. One makes you laugh at your own ignorance, the other makes you laugh at his ignorance.

Thank you Carroll O'Connor aka Archie Bunker. You made people laugh and do some serious soul searching. And that is a good thing. May you rest in peace.

I have nothing good to say about Pat Robertson, but if there is a hell, I've got to think he'll have a front row seat. 


Saturday, November 09, 2013

Giving thanks when thanks is due: Thank you Arizona Senators McCain and Flake and the rest of you brave souls - you did the right thing

Ten Republican Senators did the right thing and voted yes on the Employment Non-Discrimination Act (ENDA), which will make it illegal to fire someone based on their sexual orientation or their gender identity! And both of Arizona's very conservative senators were among the 10 who did the right thing.

I am a little late in saying thank you, but I wasn't going to let this opportunity pass. Lord knows when, if ever, I will get another chance to say thank you to a Republican for doing the right thing.

Sadly this is as far as we will probably get since John Boehner has made it clear he opposes ENDA, making it unlikely the bill would even get a vote. 

What a legacy you will have John Boehner. And you will deserve everything they say about you, including the fact that you are a true coward.


Watching these kids react to Gay Marriage videos and feeling so hopeful

I saw this the other day over on AmericaBlog and it really touched me and made me believe that one day we really will live in a world in which being gay and who you love are complete non-issues:


Congratulations Hawaii!!!! Gay marriage soon to be signed into law by Gov. Neil Abercrombie

It has been a long and colorful (see below) journey getting to this point, but with Hawaii's house joining the senate and passing a gay marriage bill today, it looks as though marriage equality will soon be the law of the land. The senate will need to go back and pass an amended version of the bill, but everyone expects the Governor will soon have a bill on his desk to sign.

Recap of the events leading up to this momentous occasion:

  • This brought out a geneticist who felt he needed to testify after hearing numerous claims that a person "chooses" to be gay. And of course incredulity ensues, who needs stinkin science when we have the bible? A must watch: 
  • Then to break the monotony of generic anti-gay, biblical doomsday testimony, we had Tenari Maafala, "an active-duty police officer who is also the president of Hawaii's police union, told state representatives that as a law enforcement official, he's obligated to enforce state law, but if marriage equality passes in the Aloha State, he won't be able to do that." And claiming: "You'd Have to Kill Me Before I'll Enforce Marriage Equality":

But no matter the road traveled to get there, the outcome was the right one! 

Thank you Hawaii. Once again fairness, equality, dignity for all, and the freedom to marry the one you love prevails over protecting some people's comfort zones! 


Man oh man does Bill Maher's New Rules editorial on Christian Values strike a chord with me!

Bill Maher asks a question so many of us have been asking for quite some time now: "When Did Christian Values Change From Love Thy Neighbor to F*ck Off and Die?"


Thursday, November 07, 2013

Illinois Lawmakers Pass Same-Sex Marriage Bill making it the 15th state to allow gay marriages

Woo Hoo!!!
Illinois is a governor's signature away from becoming the 15th state to allow gay marriages.
The Illinois Senate followed the  House in approving same-sex marriage on Tuesday.
Gov. Pat Quinn, who was present for the vote, is expected to sign it into law sometime in the future, meaning it will go into effect next summer.
What makes this victory all the more sweet for me personally is that Illinois is also home to one of the most vicious, hateful, repugnant, anti-gay groups masquerading as a family advocacy organization that I have ever seen, The Illinois Family Institute. I can only imagine what is going on at their headquarters right now. They lost this one despite all the lies, hate, and fear mongering they've gotten so good at spreading. Envisioning these nasty people grappling with this huge loss tickles me to no end. And if that makes me sound evil, so be it. These are despicable people who have caused so much pain and heartache, I simply cannot feel anything but glee. They deserve nothing more.

Here is what the Southern Poverty Law Center has to say about them:
The Illinois Family Institute (IFI), which says it dedicates itself to issues surrounding “marriage, family, life and liberty,” is heavily focused on attacking gay people and homosexuality in general. It maintains “working partnerships” with other hard-line groups including the Family Research Council (see above) and the Alliance Defense Fund, a conservative legal center based in Phoenix. In early 2010, it launched Illinois Family Action as a political-action sister organization. 
And if you can stomach it, here are links (here and here) to a whole collection of their greatest hits. This organization is not an advocate for family, it is an advocate for hate.


Sorry for the inaction, we slipped away for a few days ...

My husband and I had the opportunity to sneak away for a few days and go to Washington D.C. to visit our oldest son and his new wife and ... we took it. It was a wonderful time.

While there we played tourists and our son was able to get us passes to sit in the Senate gallery and watch whatever was going on at that moment. I was really excited even though it was early in the day on a Monday and my son had warned us that most senators were probably still on flights returning back to DC. But still I held out hope we'd get to see at least one discussion on a cloture vote on ENDA. Unfortunately all we got to see was this:

And adding to that disappointment, our son later informed us that about 15 minutes after we left, Senator Tammy Baldwin D-WI, our first openly gay Senator, delivered a floor speech on ENDA. Adding salt to that wound was the reason we left so early: a damned parking meter that was about to expire. DRATS!

Never-the-less, it was a crazy, action-packed few days and a wonderful time. But then ... any time we can see one of our kids (and their significant others), it is a wonderful time. And even watching GOP gasbags like Senator Barrasso bloviate about failed laws that have not even been implemented yet can't put a dent on that.

But here is what we missed because of that uncooperative parking meter:


Wednesday, October 30, 2013

Arizona's own Retired Justice Sandra Day O'Connor Officiates Gay Wedding AT Supreme Court

I have always admired Sandra Day O'Connor. Not just because she was this country's first woman to be appointed to the Supreme Court, but also because her decisions, barring the disastrous Bush v Gore decision, were for the most part, sane and not always in line with hard-line right-wing ideology.

I have to admit, I have been quite angry with her since she retired. I know that is unfair and even irrational since she had a very ill husband and wanted to spend more time with him. But the timing of her retirement and replacement ended up being catastrophic for this country.

But this news has softened my anger towards her a bit:
On Tuesday, retired Supreme Court Justice Sandra Day O’Connor officiated a same-sex marriage at the Supreme Court, the first gay wedding to take place in the court’s halls. (It wasn’t the first officiated by a justice, though; Ruth Bader Ginsburg beat O’Connor to that honor.) The event serves as a heartwarming confirmation that O’Connor’s shift to the left has continued through retirement—but it’s also a poignant reminder that the justice’s early retirement cut short what might have been an evolution from Reagan conservative to gay-rights luminary.
And as JMG saysThe wingnut outrage will be delicious. I could not agree more.


The Daily Show: Which state will be the last to legalize gay marriage?

Ahhhh it is so nice to start the day off with a good laugh.

Gotta confess, this clip gives me pause. I know I've been guilty on occasion of making broad generalizations when deep down I know there are always exceptions. But when it comes to racism, homophobia, and bible thumping hypocrisy it is hard to deny that certain parts of the country are probably more guilty than others. I also know most of these Daily Show pieces are heavily edited to achieve the outcome they want.

That said - I'm stickin with Nate Silver on this one. It will most likely be Mississippi or Alabama that comes in dead last when it comes to legalizing gay marriage.


Tuesday, October 29, 2013

Hawaii: I love the smell of desperation in the morning

As we approach the 10 year anniversary of the legalization of gay marriage in Massachusetts and gay marriage now legal in 14 states, the District of Columbia, several counties in New Mexico, seven Native American tribal jurisdictions, and marriage lawsuits in 14 states (Texas being the latest), the heavy smell of desperation is in the air. Especially in Hawaii. Listen to this radio ad:

My gawd - the fear mongering is unbelievable. It would be laughable if it weren't so damn pathetic.

Oh and guess which party is behind all of this nonsense.


Happy 10th Anniversary Massachusetts and ... Thank you!

On November 18, 2003, a day that will forever haunt some, Massachusetts became the first state in the U.S. in which same-sex couples could legally marry.  

Thank you Chief Justice Margaret H. Marshall!


Saturday, October 26, 2013

Anti-gay customers refuse tip to server, leave nasty hateful note, and dare to pass themselves off as "Christians"

The outpouring of kindness and support for the young gay waiter who was left the ugly note instead of a tip has been amazing. There is definitely a lesson here for the sanctimonious frauds who passed the note under the guise of loving "Christians": Expect major push-back when you bully and demean in the name of God. You may not get away with it anymore. People are definitely on to you:


My heart is filled with joy at the anger this incident has spawned towards the so-called Christian couple. For far too long incidents like this one did not receive the kind of attention this one has and when one did, it always seemed like it was the so-called Christians who were portrayed as the victims. But I think the tables have turned. Finally.

I'll bet the couple that left that note never in a million years expected news of their nasty deed to spread like an Arizona wildfire through social media eventually making it to the local news. And this happened in the bright red state of Kansas!

Serves em right. Maybe they, and others of their ilk, will think twice before pulling this kind of ugly stunt again. Or ... maybe not.

For those who cannot watch the video:
A 20-year-old waiter provided exemplary service at an Overland Park Italian restaurant, but his anti-gay customers refused to tip him because of his sexual orientation.
As word has spread through social media, other customers are coming in to offer words of encouragement and tip the young server extra.
The man works at the Carrabba's Italian Grill near 107th Street and Metcalf Avenue. His mother also works as a hostess and she was very upset by what was written on the back of the check earlier this week after he waited on a couple. 
"Thank you for your service, it was excellent. That being said, we cannot in good conscience tip you, for your homosexual lifestyle is an affront to GOD. (Homosexual slur) do not share in the wealth of GOD, and you will not share in ours," the customer wrote. "We hope you will see the tip your (homosexual slur) choices made you lose out on, and plan accordingly. It is never too late for GOD's love, but none shall be spared for (homosexual slur). May GOD have mercy on you."
The server and his mother declined to answer questions on camera, referring questions to restaurant management. The server said on social media that he wanted his work ethic and service to be what warranted tips, not sympathy.


Monday, October 21, 2013

Congratulations New Jersey!

Chris Christie drops challenge to same-sex marriage in New Jersey and Senator-elect Cory Booker wastes no time marrying Orville Bell and Joseph Panessidi in Newark, N.J., early on Monday.

And then:

While officiating the first couple’s ceremony, he asked whether anyone had any objections. One protester yelled that these marriages were “unlawful in the eyes of God and Jesus Christ,” and was then quickly removed.
“Not hearing any substantive objections, I will proceed with the vows,” Booker replied.

Ahhh, it is so nice to return home and find things a lot better than when I left.

Update: Ooops - so tired when I posted this last night I forgot to embed the clip of the ceremony. (Part with religious coo coo making a fool of himself objecting to the marriage is not included.)


Texas Judge: The Republican Party left me, I am becoming a Democrat

WOW!  I wish this happened more often:

Via: TPC


Thursday, October 10, 2013

National Coming Out Day is tomorrow

Oh Ugh! I really am taking a break, but I am not officially running away until tomorrow and this post is actually about something really, really important.

Tomorrow is the 25th anniversary of National Coming out Day. And trust me, Coming Out is one of our most powerful weapons, but as we tell people who come to our PFLAG support meetings, no one can make that decision but you. If this is not the right time for you to come out - DON'T. It is always better to wait if you are, for instance, financially dependent on your parents and you suspect they might take your news badly and kick you out to fend for yourself before you are ready. But there are any number of very valid reasons for delaying the big Coming Out Day, so don't sweat it if the time is not right for you.

But for those who are ready to reveal their authentic selves, please, please consider doing it. It is a lot harder to discriminate and hate when you know someone who is lgbt. There is no better way to kill that faceless boogieman the religious right haters use to scare-monger than by putting a face on it.


Taking a break ...

Posting will be spotty to possibly non-existent for the next week or so. Taking a break and running away from it all. I've had enough of this shut-down terrorism and really need to escape for a while.

Be good, keep fighting, and know I love (most of) you.

Seething Mom

PS  I do NOT know what I would do without Jon Stewart:


Rev. Gary Hall: Homophobia is a sin

Boy do we need more religious leaders like Rev. Gary Hall, chief ecclesiastical leader and executive officer of the National Cathedral in Washington, D.C.  (Are you listening Rick Warren, Pat Robertson, and the rest of you sanctimonious frauds?)

From the article:
"In its wisdom, the church came to its senses and labeled both racism and sexism as sinful. And now we find ourselves at the last barrier—call that barrier homophobia, call it heterosexism. We must now have the courage to take the final step and call homophobia and heterosexism what they are. They are sin. Homophobia is a sin. Heterosexism is a sin. Shaming people for whom they love is a sin. Shaming people because their gender identity doesn’t fit neatly into your sense of what it should be is a sin. Our job, as Christians, is not only to proclaim that Gospel. Our job is to live it. And if we are faithful in proclaiming and living it, today’s generation of LGBT youth will thrive and grow and take their places around this table, with Jesus, as we bless, forgive, heal, and love the world. Amen."

What a refreshing break from the horrible homophobia and hate emanating from the mouths of snake-oil salesmen masquerading as hand-picked (by God of course) holy men in right-wing churches across the country (while pulling in the big $$ to enrich themselves and enshrine their ignorance and homophobia into our laws - yes Catholic Church - you are included in this indictment as well).


Friday, October 04, 2013

Being profoundly stupid is not a bug, but a feature for today's Republican Party

Watch the interviewer in this clip. Pennsylvania Governor, Tom Corbett, opens his mouth and renders her speechless:

Honestly, nothing Republicans say or do renders me  speechless anymore. In fact, the only thing that does is when one of them says something that makes sense.

Republicans: party of the profoundly stupid.


Tuesday, October 01, 2013

My idiot Republican Arizona Rep, David Schweikert, breathlessly talks about government shutdown to NPR: “This is my idea of fun”

My Idiot Multimillionaire Rep David Schweikert 

So my teabagger representative, David Schweikert is having a simply lovely time shutting down the government. He has absolutely no worries about furloughing and suspending the pay of 800,000 workers.  And why would he? He's got a net worth of $6,165,011 and not a damn care in the world. 

It gags me to listen to the sheer joy in his voice:

Check out the smirk on this schmuck's face. I can hardly stand it. These guys really are an evil lot. No empathy, no conscience, no sense of shame, no soul. Psychopaths - the whole teabaggin lot of them.