Monday, August 24, 2015

Last Week Tonight with John Oliver: LGBT Discrimination

I am really happy John Oliver decided to tackle a huge misconception that's out there. Now that gay marriage is legal everywhere in the United States, nearly 70% of Americans believe that it is illegal to discriminate against gay people. But the sad and surprising truth is that it is actually still legal in 31 states to do just that. Gay people may be able to marry the person they love and that is wonderful, but until we pass laws that protect gay people from being fired, evicted, or refused service for no other reason than they are gay we should not rest. So yes, let's do celebrate the fact that marriage equality is now the law of the land, but let's not get too complacent yet. As long as restaurants kick gay people to the curb because they "don't like fags", florists and cake bakers refuse to supply their goods for gay weddings because they feel like they are participating in something they do not believe in, and pediatricians turn away the children of same-sex couples because it offends their religious beliefs, we'd better quit tipping the champagne and get back to work. We are definitely not done yet.


Friday, August 14, 2015

How Sitcoms Handled Homos in the 70s and 80s

Watch Matt Baume's fascinating analysis of the evolution of gays' roles in television from the 70's on through the 80's. Matt really puts it all into perspective. I just wish he'd showcased more shows and more decades - taking it right on up to the present. This is a most enjoyable watch. Take the 7 minutes it takes to watch this, you'll be glad you did.


Tuesday, August 11, 2015

Que Magnifico: Mexican Supreme Court strikes down gay adoption ban

The Mexican Supreme Court on Tuesday ruled a law in the state of Campeche that bans same-sex couples from adopting children is unconstitutional.
The 9-1 decision comes against the backdrop of the debate over marriage rights for same-sex couples that continues to gain momentum in the country.


Friday, August 07, 2015

Matt Baume's take on last night's debate responses on Gay Marriage questions

Well worth the time. It's fun watching Matt hold the usual suspects' feet to the fire.

Note: Matt is not as happy with John Kasich's response as I was (in the post below). I guess I'm just so starved for all gay issues to no longer be issues at all for this goofball Party that I'll take whatever I can get.


Credit where credit is due

My my, what a difference a few years can make. Megyn Kelly asks John Kasich what he would do if one of his children was gay. And Kasich answers from the heart. And that answer was music to this mama's ears, but even more therapeutic was the audience's reaction to his response. One thing is for sure, there's certainly been a sea change in attitudes on this subject in the past few years. Huffington Post recaps an ugly incident back in 2011 that still hurts to recall:
The crowd cheered Kasich’s response. The reaction contrasted starkly with a 2011 Republican presidential debate in which audience members booed Army Capt. Stephen Hill, a gay combat veteran, for speaking favorably about the repeal of the military's "don't ask, don't tell" policy.

I am not going to look a gift horse in the mouth, but I wish Republicans weren't such slow learners. The agony they've caused so many ...

Update: Arghs! I forgot how hideous Rick Santorum was as well. What a sanctimonious buffoon! Here is the clip of that ugly 2011 incident.


Wednesday, August 05, 2015

Friday, July 24, 2015

Pleasant Surprise: A Pastor Who Unloads on Hypocrisy and Tells the Truth About Leviticus

First time in a long time that I've enjoyed me some Fire and Brimstone.

Sure wish there were more pastors like this one around.


Tuesday, July 21, 2015

Love Won - We All Won: Beautiful, must-see video put out by Freedom to Marry

Freedom to Marry's victory celebration video takes us down memory lane. This is their going-out-of-business gift to us all. So savor the sweet, sweet victory, but let us never forget all the warriors who helped make this happen.

We are not done yet though. We must continue our fight for protections against discrimination in the workplace, housing, and public accommodations. We must limit the reach of religious-liberty claims to churches and their clergy. And finally, we must fight for full equal treatment under the law and equal access to opportunities.

There will always be culture wars, religious zealots and godbotherers who will never accept our beloved glbt loved ones. So savor this victory, but remember, resting on our laurels is NOT an option.

Speaking of religious zealots, how bout crazy Uncle Pat? He is wasting no time showing us good Christian love and acceptance of our glbt loved ones. Now he is claiming (among other things) that the gay marriage ruling legalizes love affairs between men and animals. But remember, even though this is what we have come to expect from this nutcase, we should never laugh it off, there is always a receptive audience for this kind of ugly hate.


Monday, July 20, 2015

The Golden Girls were so ahead of their time

I have a huge soft spot in my heart for this show. Back when it was in its original run, my children were 4, 6, & 7 years old. We would watch this show together. And yes, there were some scenes that may have been considered a touch racy, but that just sparked questions and discussion, which I never thought was a bad thing. I wanted my children to feel comfortable asking me anything. And I definitely did NOT want them sheltered from the realities of life. Golden Girls often provided the perfect opening for us to talk.

It was 1991 and way too early to know that one of my children would one day come out as gay, but scenes like this one below were just the kind of thing I wanted to discuss with them. I had many gay friends when I was in high school and college and I knew that there was a chance one of my children could be gay, but I also knew that it was a certainty that they would have gay children and adults in their lives as well. Either way, I did not want them starting their lives with ugly stereotypes and biases. Who better to help me with that than four lovely grandmotherly ladies like Sophia Petrillo, Rose Nylund, Dorothy Zbornak, and Blanche Devereaux?


Sunday, July 19, 2015

Scott Walker is such an ignorant weasel. .

Hey Scottie, stop being such a chickensh*t and answer the damn question. Do you believe that being gay is a choice? By dodging and ducking this question, you look like big cowardly idiot. And if you finally find the testicular fortitude to answer yes to this question, I'd like to know the exact day, date, and time of your decision to be straight. A decision that momentous surely has to be seared into even your pea-sized brain.

What an A**hole!


Thursday, July 16, 2015

This post is dedicated to all those "good" Christian 2016 GOP candidates

Photo via US Uncut
Scott Walker, I am looking at you in particular bud, but nothing is beneath the rest of you either. Popping my popcorn early. Getting ready for the big race to the bottom.


On behalf of every child suffering because of ignorance and intolerance - Thank you Caitlyn Jenner!


To all those people who use their bible as a weapon:

From the Christian Left


Hood County, Texas Commissioners listen to arguments on censoring LGBT books

Some very moving testimony at this hearing. Pay close attention to the Texas Mama who fiercely defends her "Princess Boy". Her love and support (and courage) are so inspiring. Every child should be so lucky.

And then there is the other side of the argument. And all I can do is sigh. I just wish people could comprehend the concept of "Separation of Church and State", but alas, there will always be some who just have to shove their religious crap into the public sphere. I suppose I just have to accept that this is the way it is always going to be, but good lord that pious godbothering sure gets old and nauseating.

Maybe someone should suggest to that one lady that she spend more time at the "libary" brushing up on the  First Amendment to the Constitution of the United States.


Wednesday, July 15, 2015

Oh snap!

Way to go Conan O'Brien:

You know, one does have to wonder about some of these crazy right-wing religious homophobes who spend so much time obsessing and raging about gay sex. Pat Robertson is not the only one who sets off my gaydar warning bells, either. Are you listening James Dobson, Tony Perkins, Bryan Fischer and way too many more of you to call out by name, but you know who you are.


Monday, July 13, 2015

Former Secretary of Defense Robert Gates: “We must deal with the world as it is, not as we might wish it to be”

And so ends the Boy Scouts of America’s long-standing ban on gay and bisexual adults being Troop Leaders. It was a unanimous decision!

The ban on gay children participating in the Boy Scouts program ended 2 years ago, but not unanimously - in that vote 61% of approximately 1,400 voting members of the BSA National council voted to end the ban barring gay youth from participating in the BSA program.

My bet is that in a few years, people will look back on this era and shake their heads in disbelief at the cruelty directed at these young kids and adults affected by such blatant ignorant discrimination.

As I have mentioned in years past, I have 2 sons, one gay and one straight. Both were Boy Scouts from first grade on  (well Cub Scouts in their younger years, Boy Scouts in their older years). Both boys achieved their Eagle Scout, the highest rank attainable in the Boy Scouting program, an honor not many boys hang in there long enough to attain.

I am grateful to see progress happen, but sad to think that anyone could have thought a ban on children was ever something God would have sanctioned. But then again, religion has been used over the millennia to justify cruel and hurtful things done unto others, so nothing new here.

UPDATE: There is an exemption for troops organized by religious organizations.

That sucks a bit. Damn! 

Sunday, July 12, 2015

Thom Hartmann takes on the South: Time For Reconstruction in the South or Say Goodbye?

I discussed this subject a few days ago when I posted an article by Michael Lind titled How the South Skews America. And now I see that one of my favorite radio commentators, Thom Hartmann, is to my extreme delight, taking this subject on as well. I just wish he'd dump the right wingers from the panel though.

Honest to gawd, I'd love to see the Southern states secede. They've been mooching, bible thumping, parasites sucking at the teet of America for way too long. (And yes! I know my state is just as bad.)


Wednesday, July 08, 2015

Born-Again Baptist Jimmy Carter Believes Jesus Approves of Gay Marriage

Uh boy! Cue the crazies.

And the reactions are coming in:
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"We’d be less violent, more mobile and in general more normal if not for Dixie"

From the Southern Poverty Law Center

I have often wished (silently-of course) that the South had succeeded in seceding. I am not sorry to say this, even though I know there are many wonderful and decent people who live in the South, but they seem to be the silent minority, or maybe unable to out-scream the loud-mouth bigots and sanctimonious frauds that for me, define the South. And now I am thrilled to say I've found an article by Michael Lind that explains better than I can why I feel the way I do about the South. I don't feel so alone anymore. It is a great read so go read the whole thing. I cannot do it nearly the justice it deserves by excerpting (though I will, just to get you hooked):
Every year the Fourth of July is marked by ringing affirmations of American exceptionalism. We are a special nation, uniquely founded on high ideals like freedom and equality. In practice, however, much of what sets the United States apart from other countries today is actually Southern exceptionalism. The United States would be much less exceptional in general, and in particular more like other English-speaking democracies such as Britain, Canada, Australia and New Zealand were it not for the effects on U.S. politics and culture of the American South.
I don’t mean this in a good way. A lot of the traits that make the United States exceptional these days are undesirable, like higher violence and less social mobility. Many of these differences can be attributed largely to the South.
But even by the standards of the English-speaking world, the U.S. appears as an extreme outlier, in areas ranging from religiosity to violence to anti-government attitudes. As we learned after the slaughter last month in Charleston, S.C., some deluded Southerners still pine for secession from the Union. Yet no doubt there are also more than a few liberal Northerners who would be happy to see them go.
Minus the South, the rest of the U.S. probably would be more like Canada or Australia or Britain or New Zealand—more secular, more socially liberal, more moderate in the tone of its politics and somewhat more generous in social policy. And it would not be as centralized as France or as social democratic as Sweden.
Religiosity is one example of American exceptionalism among English-speaking countries that is largely the result of Southern exceptionalism within the United States. “We don’t do God,” Tony Blair’s aide Alastair Campbell famously remarked, emphasizing that religion is kept out of the public sphere in modern-day Britain. In most modern English-speaking countries, voters find ostentatious piety on the part of political candidates troubling, not reassuring. But in the U.S., born-again Southern evangelical politicians like Jimmy Carter and George W. Bush who troll for votes with piety have given U.S. presidential politics a flavor more reminiscent of Tehran than of London or Ottawa or Canberra. According to Gallup, in 2014 the most religious Americans were all found in Southern states, with the exceptions of Mormon Utah and semi-Southern Oklahoma. Mississippi led the nation in zeal.
Southern violence also goes a long way toward explaining the exceptional violence of the United States in general compared to otherwise similar countries. The pre-modern “culture of honor” continues to exist to a greater degree in the South. White Southerners are more likely than white northerners to respond to insults with increased testosterone and aggression, according to social scientists. According to the FBI in 2012, the South as a region, containing only a quarter of the population, accounted for 40.9 percent of U.S. violent crime.
Compared to other Americans, Southerners disproportionately support sanctioned violence in all of its forms, from military intervention abroad to capital punishment to corporal punishment of children. According to Gallup, Southern households have a far higher rate of gun ownership (38 percent) than households in the East (21 percent), Midwest (29 percent) or West (27 percent).

I ended up snipping way more than I intended, but it is just so good it deserves to be read in full. So go do it! 


Straight talk from a straight man

146,883 views so far:


Wednesday, July 01, 2015

A marvelous smack down to pretend Catholic "victims"

I saw this video a few days ago and I have been stewing ever since. These so-called "Christians" turn my stomach when they present themselves as the victim when they get blow-back for being intolerant and generally hateful people. This clip, titled Not Alone, portrays a bunch of Catholic jackasses "coming out" to say that they are no longer afraid to tell people exactly how they feel about gays. It was created by a group called The Catholic Vote and has gone viral over the last few days.

Thankfully, a few days later, an alternate version of Not Alone has come out. It doesn't completely remove the stench of the original version, but it does a good job of making fun of the idiots who made the original.

Again, I will refer back to my big fat THANK YOU to the religious right for helping us make the huge strides in gay rights that we've made in the past decade. I guess hate and ignorance ain't all bad.



Monday, June 29, 2015

Heh. Serves the schmucks right. Marriage for me, but not for thee.

First this:

Then this:

And then the Coup de Grace:

How lovely an ending is that? Thank you Brentwood Photography. You lost a customer, but you gained a lot of admirers.


Saturday, June 27, 2015

Marriage – 1895, when wives were still chattel

I am posting an article below by Jeff Wilfahrt. I am posting it in its entirety and with his permission.

For those of you who've been loyal readers of this blog over the years, Jeff will be a familiar name to you. I have blogged about the amazing Wilfahrt family over and over and over and over and over and over and over again. I have also had the privilege of meeting Jeff in person as well.

But for those of you who are not familiar with Jeff, it is important that you know a few things about this special family.

Jeff and Lori Wilfahrt are the proud parents of Cpl. Andrew Wilfahrt, the eldest of their 3 children. Andrew fought and ultimately lost his life to an IED in Kandahar, Afghanistan in February of 2011. Cpl. Andrew Wilfahrt was gay and out to the men in his unit. This was before the repeal of DADT, but it did not matter, no one cared, everyone loved Andrew. He was a good man and an excellent soldier. Here is a must-watch short clip about Andrew:

And now that I have given you a little background about Andrew and his family, the bittersweet significance of the article below will be abundantly clear.

Marriage – 1895, when wives were still chattel
by Jeff Wilfahrt
The year is 1895. John Lind, soon to be Minnesota’s first non-Republican governor, is the lawyer representing Franziska in divorce proceedings against husband Josef.
The divorce is granted and 40 acres of land are to be handed over to Franziska. But alas, under law she is the husband’s chattel and cannot directly receive the land. Instead it is transferred by title to a daughter named Barbara. She in turn will deed the land back over to the mother, Franziska. That’s how marriage law worked 125 years ago.
Of course women couldn’t vote in 1895. That was still decades away.
Marriage and all its implications, legal and otherwise has changed a lot since 1895. Women are no longer simply part of a man’s property. Women vote. Still not on pay parity but hopefully that will come, the sooner the better.
Several generations slip by, offspring spread and the family tree branches.
Some 115 years later a scion of this couple dies by IED in the sands of Afghanistan. He’s an Army MP. Had he lived 24 hours more he’d been on a flight back to the states for his leave, now 10 months into his deployment. The day he was due home he was instead buried. Oh, and he was gay, and as his sister said, probably the least interesting thing about him.
Like all military personnel he had taken an oath to defend the constitution. He ended up making a payment in full.
Had he lived he may have seen the day that he had the option to marry. A right now granted by the Supreme Court under the majority’s interpretation of constitutional rights.
Like so many others, he now lies in what Obama so aptly described as the “quiet corners” of our country.
It is a slow crawl to recover what in all likelihood should never have been surrendered, by women, by our fellow citizens, all of whom live under the umbrella of that incredible document birthed in the Age of Enlightenment.
RIP Cpl. Andrew Wilfahrt.


Saw this, loved this, and I am posting this

From one of my favorite blogs, Balloon Juice:

Also from the same blog:


Happy day for most - disastrous for some


Friday, June 26, 2015

The beautiful ending to Justice Kennedy’s gay marriage opinion

Thank you Justice Kennedy:

“No union is more profound than marriage, for it embodies the highest ideals of love, fidelity, devotion, sacrifice, and family. In forming a marital union, two people become something greater than once they were. As some of the petitioners in these cases demonstrate, marriage embodies a love that may endure even past death. It would misunderstand these men and women to say they disrespect the idea of marriage. Their plea is that they do respect it, respect it so deeply that they seek to find its fulfillment for themselves. Their hope is not to be condemned to live in loneliness, excluded from one of civilization’s oldest institutions. They ask for equal dignity in the eyes of the law. The Constitution grants them that right. The judgment of the Court of Appeals for the Sixth Circuit is reversed. It is so ordered.”

So lovely.


Attention Franklin Graham. Looks like there is an airline you must boycott ...

At this rate, there are not going to be any banks, airlines, restaurants, clothing outlets, or anything else left for the anti-marriage equality crowd to take their business. God won't smite them, but you can bet your boopy old sanctimonious fraud Franklin will.
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Oh snap! Franklin on cue:

Franklin Graham: 'Pray God will spare America' after same-sex marriage ruling


Agonizing Wait Is Over! Supreme Court Rules Same-Sex Couples Have The Right To Marry in ALL 50 States.

5-4 Decision. Five enlightened justices vs 4 Knuckle-dragging Neanderthals. No matter, it's done. We won. Finally. Let the right-wing frothing, fear-mongering, threatening, crying, pleading bullshit begin. I will enjoy every second of it. They deserve any agony they are feeling. They have dished it out long enough. It is their turn now. Karma really is a bitch.

UPDATE: It has begun:

UPDATE#2: From the Supreme Court opinion:

"No union is more profound than marriage, for it embodies the highest ideals of love, fidelity, devotion, sacrifice, and family... It would misunderstand these men and women to say they disrespect the idea of marriage. Their plea is that they do respect it, respect it so deeply that they seek to find its fulfillment for themselves. Their hope is not to be condemned to live in loneliness, excluded from one of civilization’s oldest institutions. They ask for equal dignity in the eyes of the law. The Constitution grants them that right."

Thursday, June 25, 2015

What's the Definition of "Traditional Marriage"? Matt Baume explains.

With a Supreme Court ruling on gay marriage coming down any day now, it seems the perfect time to post this.

Listen up NOM and the rest of you ignorant sanctimonious frauds. We are NOT redefining traditional marriage by allowing same-sex couples to marry. Your precious bible (special third-grade-level edition) and the Supreme Court have been doing it long before this ruling.


I'm HIV positive, do you dare to touch me?

Not going to tell you how this HIV positive man's experiment turned out. Watch and see:

Thank you JMG.


Saturday, June 20, 2015

Colin Farrell Celebrates Legalization of Gay Marriage in Ireland - and slips in a funny jab at the ridiculousness of the Catholic Church's reaction too

Fun times:

I've always loved Colin Farrell and he just gave me one more reason to adore him.


Since tomorrow is Fathers' Day ...

Saw this over at JMG's place and just had to steal it. It is such an appropriate thing to post since tomorrow is a day to honor our dads. And these particular dads are some of the best.

So lovely.


Friday, June 19, 2015

Something has been really bothering me about the Rachel Dolezal story and it doesn't have anything to do with her

I've been really struggling with this story since it broke. Yes, it's got strange elements to it. And yes, it is hard to understand her motivations. And yes, it is getting way more media attention than it should -- in my opinion.

But I keep asking myself, what harm has she done? And the answer in my mind is none. In fact many of the people who've worked with her at the NAACP in Spokane speak highly of her work and accomplishments and stand behind her advocacy record.

I suppose what has bothered me most about this story is the fact that it is her parents who went out of their way to expose her. Why? Who was she hurting? Why would they humiliate her and turn her life upside down like this? What kind of parents would do such a thing? Certainly NOT loving parents in my opinion.

And why has the media been so obsessed with this? And in all the wrong ways?  Well today I finally found the piece to the puzzle that makes this story make sense to me and I am posting it below. It is a segment from the Stephanie Miller radio show with guest Tina Dupuy (and if you do not know Tina's history, google her name with search words AA and cult). Tina recognized what made this story so tragic right away and it is NOT Rachel, but Rachel's parents, just as I'd suspected. As mentioned in the radio segment (which starts talking about Rachel Dolezal at the 3 minute mark), Tina also wrote an article on this subject and is well worth the read. And the radio segment is here:

I may take some flak for saying this, but I am going to say it anyway. To hell with hurt feefees. I believe with all my heart that for many children living in fundamentalist or crazy religious families, it is a living hell. Ask any one of the many glbt children who've been thrown to the streets how kind and loving their "good Christian" parents were. I see these kids every month at our support meetings. And when I first heard about Rachel Dolezel, my gut got that same sick feeling I get when I see these broken, lost kids come through our doors each month.


Tuesday, June 16, 2015

Dear Pope Francis - I am crushed by disappointment

A married lesbian couple kisses in front of the Colosseum
during Rome’s 2015 LGBT Pride celebration.
A friend sent this article to me and basically blew my good mood all to pieces. And any hope I had that this kinder, gentler Pope who proclaimed to all "Who am I to judge?" when asked about gay people, is actually just as bad (but sneakier) at judging the glbt community as his predecessor:
Pope Francis supported heterosexual complementarity in a speech on Sunday given to 25,000 people gathered in St. Peter’s Square for a pastoral conference for the Diocese of Rome.
Though he did not mention lesbian and gay couples, the timing of the speech seemed significant to some since it came a day after tens of thousands of people marched through the streets of the Eternal City to celebrate LGBT Pride and to call for marriage equality in Italy.
 So what is this message of complementarity? Well Religion News Service captured significant quotes from the papal talk:
“. . . [T]he pope said the differences between men and women are fundamental and ‘an integral part of being human.’
“The pontiff likened a long-lasting marriage to a good wine, in which a husband and wife make the most of their gender differences.
“ ‘They’re not scared of the differences!’ the pope said. ‘What great richness this diversity is, a diversity which becomes complementary, but also reciprocal. It binds them, one to the other.’
“Heterosexual marriages not only ensured couples’ happiness, the pontiff said, but were deemed essential for good parenting.
“ ‘Children mature seeing their father and mother like this; their identity matures being confronted with the love their father and mother have, confronted with this difference,’ Francis said.”
This is sneaky and underhanded. This is a dog whistle to the faithful and quite possibly to the knuckle draggers on our Supreme Court as well. This is so disappointing and depressing. Any doubts I may have had about walking away from the Church have been washed away with this very judgmental speech. Well all I can say is thank you Pope Francis, your words confirm for me why I shall never, ever walk thru the doors of a Catholic Church again.